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Jessica Baum, psychotherapist and author of Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love, on the links between attachment theory and our addictions to substances, behaviors, and unhealthy relationships. In the episode we discuss:
-An overview of attachment theory – and how our relationship with our early caregivers wires our attachment style
-How an inability to trust and connect with others can be traced back to how our nervous system formed in infancy
-Why we become “attached” to certain substances, behaviors, and people, when we are detached from ourselves
-Why so many people experience insecure attachment – whether this is expressed in “anxious” or “avoidant” tendencies
-Why addictive behaviors are only a symptom of underlying distress – which often has its roots in attachment issues
-The meaning of “dis-regulation” and how we learn to reach outside of ourselves to regulate our nervous system
-Why a state of relaxation and ease can feel so alien to us when we are used to being dis-regulated
-Why workaholism and “overdoing” are so prevalent as ways of avoiding states of inner distress
-The chemical reaction that makes some people more vulnerable to “love addiction”
-Where codependency and love addiction overlap
-Why healthy conflict is what builds intimacy in relationships – and how being conflict averse can enable destructive behaviors
-The journey from “selfless” to “self-full” as a way to become more secure in our attachments
-Why it’s normal and okay to “self-medicate” and how to discover what are safe medicators for us
Get your copy of Anxiously Attached HERE and follow Jessica on Instagram @jessicabaumlmhc
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